Today, more than ever before, there’s a nearly endless supply of ideas about how to get organized. Next time you’re at the grocery store, take a look at the cover of just about any women’s magazine. You’ll see what I mean. Headlines say “5-minute organizing tricks” or “5 quick clutter cures” or “How to organize every room in your house!” And if that’s not enough, then hop onto Pinterest for a few minutes. You’ll find thousands of pictures of beautifully—if not perfectly—organized spaces.
Now don’t get me wrong: I love organizing ideas. I love being inspired by photos of beautiful spaces. But here’s something I know to be true: sometimes those images can cause us to feel intensely pressured, which is so counterproductive when getting and staying organized.
If you feel like your home should be perfectly organized all the time, then I’m willing to bet that the pressure you experience is, at times, intense. We often look at the images on Pinterest, our favorite blogs, magazine covers, and see perfectly organized spaces. While what we see can give us wonderful ideas and inspire us to get organized, it can also have the opposite effect. We can begin to feel as if our organizational efforts never measure up, which in turn zaps our motivation and confidence.
Compare these images or messages to something you see in a fashion magazine. We know most people simply don’t look like models, and even the models don’t look like their photos in real life. The magic of lighting, make-up, careful posing and of course photo re-touching, creates an image of perfection.
It’s much the same with organizational eye-candy…what we’re seeing is a carefully staged area at a single moment in time. It doesn’t reflect life happening because real life is messy! When real life is happening, stuff is out and being used. And this is the reason for getting organized in the first place—so you can live your life and do what needs to be done with ease.
When you feel deflated by images of organizing perfection, imagine that five minutes before the shutter snapped there were shoes tossed on the floor and magazines on the counter. And as soon as the cameras were put away…real life started happening again, and bits of clutter crept back onto the scene. That’s real life my friends. That’s how it’s supposed to be.
There are no perfect organizing solutions. There is no home or space that can be perfectly organized 100% of the time. When you recognize and embrace this, something incredible starts to happen. The pressure to live up to an unrealistic standard begins to release. And then, getting organized and staying organized gets easier and feels much better, too. By the way, this is just one concept I explain fully—and show you how to put into action—in The Secrets of Staying Organized.
The next time you’re feeling stressed and pressured that your home doesn’t look like your favorite pinned images, I hope you’ll take a deep breath, release that pressure and remind yourself that the real point of getting organized isn’t to stand back and admire a perfectly organized space. It’s to make life easier and better by creating more time and space for the people you love and the things you love to do. Ahhh…that feels better.
Thanks so much for pointing all of this out – I definitely fall into the trap of comparing my home [and well, the rest of my “me-ness”] to what I see in magazines, on Pinterest, my favorite blogs, etc. Reading this was a GREAT reminder that the whole point is to “make life easier and better by creating more time and space for the people you love and the things you love to do”. It’s SO easy to forget that and just beat myself over the head with guilt about how I’m not perfect all the time.
What’s perfect anyway? I know for me, when I actually say it straight out, my expectation of what my “perfect” life would be, is completely ridiculous! On that note, I’m off to go make some shaving cream towers on my kitchen table with my little ones… and maybe clean up afterwards. XD
That’s awesome Diana! Enjoy making those shaving cream towers with your little ones. That’s what it’s really all about. 🙂
Aby
I am very interested in your video program. My question would be if this information is for home organization or will it help with my office issues as well?
Hi, Cindy,
Thanks so much for your question. The primary focus of the workshop is on home organization and keeping your home organized. However, many of the principles would also work well in the office environment. So I definitely think it would help with issues at the office as well, though the examples are about the household.
Let me know if I can answer any other questions for you. You can always try a lesson and if it isn’t for you, we’ll give you a refund in accordance with our refund policy. http://simplify101.com/cancellation-refund/
Thanks!
Aby
Thanks for the grounding advise Aby, what a breath of fresh air. Perfectionism is an easy trap for me to fall into during the process of organizing.
Thanks Sarah! It is definitely an easy trap.
Thanks for this, Aby. It’s something I really needed to hear…and remind myself of often!
Thanks for your comment Lycia. Glad the message connected with you!
Reading this as I listen to Amy Grant’s song, Don’t try So Hard, off her new album. It is a great melodic reminder that we are all perfect in God’s eyes. He sees our scars and shortcomings and offers us grace and love no matter what! I forgive myself nearly everyday for not living up to my own ideas of perfection. Only recently have I come to see the good enough for me. I have never been a perfect housekeeper or organizer but have beat myself up anyway. Now I do what I can and know that it is enough. We should all give ourselves a break and get REAL,
So happy to hear you don’t beat yourself up anymore Susan!
Hi Aby:
I teach Life Issues and Life Management (high school). Many of my students (girls in particular) get caught up in perfectionism in many areas of their lives. In fact, I don’t allow the word “perfect” to describe anything or anyone in our classroom. I am so happy to see your article about keeping perspective in life and envisioning behind the scenes in our minds before allowing ourselves to feel inadequate. I am saving your article to read in class this coming school year. Thank you.
Thank you, Nancy. I’m glad the article connected with you. What a fabulous idea to not allow the word perfect to be used in your classroom – great message as nothing is perfect.
Aby